Seven reasons why I am not skinny (and don’t care)

Nothing tastes as good as skinny feels, said Kate Moss once upon a time. I bet she’s never tried a double beef burger with battered cheese and a generous helping of chipotle mayo, because if she had, she’d never spew out such nonsense.


Here’s the thing. There’s a lot of pressure for women of all ages to look a certain way, and when I say a certain way I mean that any extra “cushin’ for the pushin’” is considered to not be okay. That if you notice a muffin top forming you should hit the gym like nobodys’ business. That we should constantly watch what we eat because god forbid we’d get fat (whatever that really means).



And you know what? I call bullshit.


I’ve struggled with my weight all my life. I’ve always been short and stubby with hips that go on for miles. My body was never meant to be ribcage hugging skinny, but that didn’t mean that when the girls in school called me fat I’d just shrug and say “who gonna check me, boo”. It doesn’t mean that when everyone else fit into their size zero jeans I didn’t feel bad. And when I felt bad I stopped eating for a few years because that is what you do when food makes you have the sads.


It’s taken me a while to get to a point where I would rather eat fantastic food and drink wonderful wine and bonkers beers than worry about being skinny.


And here’s why.




1. I tried all the fad diets and the eating plans going. I have put myself through the bad breath and mood swings of Atkins. I’ve logged every bite I eat with Weight Watchers and Slimming World. I’ve drank my way through SlimFast. I’ve even went through the bowel boiling cabbage diet (yeah, I know that’s disgusting but so’s eating just cabbage for a few weeks). And you know what? Life’s too short to count or write down every single thing you cram down your gob.


And life is definitely too short for kicking yourself when you’re not 100 % on plan. I stressed myself out with the process to such levels that when I should have been happy about my decreasing waistline, I was so concerned about the next milestone that I never enjoyed what I had achieved so far. So fuck that. Wearing a size larger pair of jeans is really not that big of a deal that it’s worth making myself miserable for.



2. I hate the gym. I hate it so much. I have nothing against going to zumba with my mates and having a right laugh wiggling my arse to some top tunes but you’d only be able to drag me to the gym kicking and screaming. So no thanks. I have better things to do with my time than forcing myself through something I detest so much. Just because half the world seems to be posting gym selfies and is making “fit the new black”. I really don’t care. I’ll rest my big bum on the sofa until it’s time for zumba again and trust me, there’ll be no selfies from there, girlfriend.


3. Being healthy doesn’t mean being skinny. Just because I’m packing a little extra on my waist doesn’t mean I am a lazy slob. Just because I enjoy a little extra cheese on, well anything really, doesn’t mean I have no self control or that I am a veggie dodger. If I can love my love handles so should everyone else. Let’s all collectively get over it; I am round. Round is a shape. Ergo, I am in shape.



4. Food is social. There’s nothing better than meeting your friends for a bite to eat or sit down with your family for a proper feast. It’s the whole breaking of bread thing that is a cornerstone of our whole society no matter where in the world we hail from.


5. Cheese.


6. They say alcohol is full of empty calories and that is a load of crock. It’s full of fabulous calories. And, there is less calories in a glass of red wine than in a piece of seeded super food bread so there is that. Not that I’m counting.


7. A good story never started with “this one time, I ate this fabulous clean salad”. Trust me on that.




Obviously there is a balance to everything. And everyone needs to find their own balance. Mine is balancing my generous helping of carb-filled pasta carbonara with a great wine or making sure I consume an equal amount of pale and dark beers in one night. And I refuse to feel bad about that.


What about you? Hit me up in the comments.


  • You hit the nail right on the head! Denying ourselves of all the wonderful cheese and wine and pizza(!) the world has to offer (and replacing them with cabbage – blech!) only sets us up for failure.

  • Hannah Chau

    Being skinny is overrated. I was a skinny girl but as I grew into a woman, I expanded.

    Now that I’m pregnant, I have expanded even more! But so has my mind, I now see and understand beauty so differently!

  • I loved this reading! You are totally right! You don’t have to be skinny to be healthy. If you feel comfortable in your body, there is no reason trying to be skinny, especially when your body was meant to be curvy.

  • Jasmin N

    I hate gym too! Definitely not for me, I rather go for a walk than to the gym haha 😀
    I definitely agree with all your points & I’m happy to hear that you’ve accepted all your curves in a world where fitness is so fucking IN 🙂

  • Love this – I had to come to terms with the fact that my love of cheese, pasta and wine was not conducive to life as a size 0 (or, let’s face it, a 2, 4, 6 or even an 8 most of the time) and I am okay with this! 🙂

  • whitney

    “Being healthy doesn’t mean being skinny.” Amen! Thanks for being so honest and confronting the idea that skinny = healthy. Great post!

  • I’ve been struggling with my physic pretty much since forever, and your article resonates deeply within me. Thank you so much for that! Have a lovely day! xx

  • First, I love your photos!! And second, so true. I love food tooooo much to be super concerned about dieting!


  • You’re amazing the way you are,
    I loved reading this post.
    Being happy with yourself is so important!

  • I so agree with you, the most important thing is that you are happy with yourself and that you are healthy! 🙂 Loved the post <3 xo

  • Don’t worry about being skinny, just eat when you’re hungry and not bored. And if you want to have a better figure than start training. It’s actually simpler when we don’t think about it. I learnt this the hard way.
    BS, xx | Nothing tastes as good as skinny feels,

  • We all fit into this world! The important thing is to keep the balance because the body is the soul’s temple after all! You don’t want to be fat for the sake of your health and not because of society’s beauty standards. 😉

  • Balance is the importance, it’s your body at the end of the day and you eat whatever you feel like! …like we use to say… yolo 😛

    Thuymi @

  • Great post! I too am done with limiting myself in order to fit into what society wants of me. I will do what makes me healthy and feel good and I don’t care what size is inside my jeans!


    Its so important to do what makes you feel best darlin!

  • Very nice post

  • Well done, great post! I’ve always struggle with my weight since forever and I love eating, I love good food and I just eat healthier and I’m ok!

  • At the end of the day if you’re happy and healthy then it’s nobodies business what you eat, do or don’t do. Eat, drink and be merry if that’s how you want to live just remember that balance is key 🙂

  • Jasmin N

    You’re wonderful just the way you are 🙂

    ~ Jasmin N
    Little Things With Jassy

  • The foods looks delicious. I love to enjoy my foods but I also crazy with gym, zumba and exercise. But I almost eat everything. Hahahaha….
    But I think is very important that everyone shall be happy and satisfied with all their size and their life. You´re great as you´re dear. <3

  • The balance is needed in life. As long as you go by your inner balance, you’re ok 😀 Being skinny… does it really matter ?

  • Well said! I’m sick of trying to be thin – I’m just fine as I am