Can’t wait for Chester Pride – But it’s not about me

It’s Chester Pride this Saturday and I have my rainbow colours, glitter and party spirit at the ready! I love Pride, me. I love the colourful celebration of, our brothers and sisters and those yet to decide in the LGBTQIA community. I love the smiling couples, elaborate costumes and rainbow flags and I am all for all of it. But it’s not about me.



I am a CIS (person whose gender identity matches the sex that they were assigned at birth) straight female married to CIS straight male and whereas I certainly have my own struggles in life (ya know, things we need feminism for) Pride isn’t a place for me to air them. I absolutely want to support my marginalized peers, but I need to accept that these events, as fun and as fabulous and sparkling as they 100% are, are organized by and for the LGBTQIA community. I’m rocking straight privilege and I am a quest here. And as a quest, there’s a few things I, and all other guests, need to remember.



Here’s what I mean:


Pride isn’t just a parade

Pride is so, so much more than just a weekend of some heavy drinking and partying it up while wearing rainbows and glitter. I mean that’s great and all, but Pride actually has a rich history dating back to the Stonewall Riots. The Stonewall riots were started by trans women of colour in the summer of 1969. The Pride of today may look like an all-day dance party, but while you’re downing the shots raise a glass (or a few) to people like Sylvia Riviera and Harvey Milk who fought for LGBTQIA community’s right to live and love, proudly and in public.


No pointing, no gawking, no judgement

The LGBTQIA community might go all-out during Pride, both because it’s a rare place where it’s safe to do so, and as a general act of rebelliousness against heteronormative society, but it doesn’t give anyone the right to be plain rude and ignorant and treat the folks giving it their all like “some freaks”, they’re not here to entertain anyone but themselves. Also, any signs about “God’s Wrath” need to stay at home, with you, Judgy McJudgerson. Feck off.


Mind your language

Seriously. There are words that the LGBTQIA community can use that I, or anyone not part of that community, cannot. I don’t care if that’s “unfair”, debate the fairness of it elsewhere on another day. Just because the LGBTQIA community call themselves queer, dyke, homo in the safety of their own community, it’s 100% not acceptable to assume that gives you carte blanch to do the same. So, let’s not.



It’s not about me

I mean really, us CIS straight folk get almost every other day of the year to ourselves. This is the one time of year that everything is about our LGBTQIA brothers, sisters and those undecided. They deserve their own day! Don’t ask people to give you a 101 on any LGBTQIA identity, your first stop should be google anyway. Don’t take your bachelor/ette party into gay bars throwing after-parties. And please do not run around looking for praise for what a good ally you’ve been this year. There is no gay Santa Claus who will give you cookies (but if anyone spots one please let me know, I’m always on the market for cookies).


Don’t be a douche

Basically, don’t do anything you wouldn’t do on any other given day. Sure, it gets a bit mad and wild during Pride but loudly speculating on the genders of other people, wondering what’s under their dresses, unsolicited grabbing or groping or hateful speech is not okay ever and it’s not okay now. Which leads me to…


Don’t ask when ‘Straight Pride’ is

Because if you have to ask, not only should you not be at Pride, you shouldn’t be allowed anywhere without adult supervision. Feck off, then feck off some more.



Other than that, have your rainbows and glitter ready because it’s going to be one massive party on Saturday! See all you beautiful people there! PEACE OUT.
  • These are such important points for allies to remember. Hope you have a wonderful PRIDE!!! 🙂

  • whitney

    These are excellent points! Have a blast!