Hey, little troll, no. You are NOT entitled to a dialogue with me. Here’s why.
Dialogue is for reasonable people acting in good faith. Dialogue happens between two reasonable positions. Dialogue means an exchange.
You, little troll, are not reasonable. “Taxes should be raised” versus “taxes should not be raised” are two reasonable positions. “Racism exists” versus “Racism does not exist because it doesn’t happen to me” are not. Nor are “Sexism exists” versus “Sexism does not exist because it doesn’t happen to me”. It is not reasonable to proscribe something because you, in your privileged bubble, have never experienced it. If you are a man, it is most unlikely you have experienced sexism which is directed at women. If you are a white, working-to-middle class member of the native majority, it is most unlikely that you have experienced racism which is directed at minorities. You have zero basis to deny the existence of either, or the experience of either, yet you do so against all presented evidence and because you think you can get a rise out of it; that is not reasonable.
Nor is saying that anyone should just “ignore” racist or sexist verbal abuse, even if you just “shrug off” the nasty things people sometimes say to you online. Listen little troll, you get said nasty things to because you spend your days saying nasty things to people. It is a choice you repeatedly make. But I do not deserve to be verbally abused because I was born somewhere other than where I live, or because I was born with a vagina. I had zero say in both of these events and you know what, neither did you. You do not rid a society of sexism or racism by ignoring it. There is a clear connection between words and actions and if we do not renounce racist or sexist language we give way to action based on that language. So, if you think I need “a thicker skin” in order to ignore racist or sexist abuse, it means you are OK with people saying verbally abusive things and thus you are also OK with people acting on that verbal abuse. As such, you do not deserve to enter into dialogue with me.
You do not approach a conversation in good faith. You try and provoke for a reaction and then revel in ridiculing people who you’ve pushed to have an emotional reaction, for having an emotional reaction. You try and tactically pull and push your tone so that you can pretend you have only tried to converse in the subject. You ridicule and belittle my position, and try and pass that as dialogue. That is not acting in good faith; if you wanted to truly enter a discourse in a subject you would feel no need to use CAPSLOCK to make your point, talk over anyone, try and steer the conversation or belittle anyone else’s position or feelings.
I am not a “snowflake” because I refuse to accept people slurring verbal abuse at me, no matter what part of my person it is directed at. You are a special little snowflake because you are so upset about living in a world where you can’t spew out anything that springs to mind. You live in a world where it is not acceptable to be racist, xenophobic or sexist. Getting flack for saying things you know are abusive is not “political correctness gone mad”. And “political correctness” is not the same thing as human decency. If you don’t know the difference, you have no place in a dialogue with me.
You try and dominate the conversation by demanding answers to petty questions that are only intended as a misdirection from what should actually be discussed. You rush people in their answers, you try to intimidate them and you try to execute autonomy over the dialogue. But no, honey. You do not dictate to me how or when I practice dialogue. You have zero autonomy over me and you do not get to demand anything from me.
No, you can’t win a dialogue. Dialogue is about an exchange and no one can win one. Not even you, my special little guy.
You present mostly “what-abouttery” based arguments. As if somehow, if someone I support did something morally questionable at some point of their life/career, that gives a blank cheque to someone you support to act in the same, or even worse way. It doesn’t. Just because someone in the history of ever has made piss poor choices does not excuse anyone else making them. Nor does the fact that I have not protested against every single wrong in the world undermine it when I do protest. You mind your own protests, and I will mind mine.
“But I have the right to say whatever I want. We have freedom of speech”, you cry. You sure do, buttercup, but you have zero right to be heard. I have no obligation to listen to anything you say and you have zero entitlement to enter into a dialogue with me if I choose to not enter one with you. Sorry, honey, but you have no autonomy over my self-determination, which is an inviolable principle, no matter how big and clever you are… and you really aren’t either.
So no, little troll. You are not entitled to a dialogue with me. Run along now.