10 things every woman in their thirties needs to know

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Skipping from your crazy and carefree twenties into your thirties can be really daunting and downright depressing. So what I’m going to do is tell you things I wish someone had told me when I turned thirty (and then some).

 

1. Your hangovers are going to get progressively worse from now on. Even if just a few months back you could stay out all night, snooze for an hour or so and still get up fresh as a daisy and survive a full days’ work, you won’t be able to anymore. I won’t tell you to stop drinking on school nights because hey, sometimes you need a few glasses of wine (followed by a few pints, a few shots…) regardless of what day of the week it is so my advice is to introduce more water into your drinking routine and to finish earlier. Oh, and don’t be afraid to pick up a pizza on your way home. Those drinks need to be soaked up with something, and calories acquired when drunk don’t count.

 

2. And speaking of those calories – even if the drunken ones don’t count, the others do with a vengeance. If you ever considered joining a gym now might be the time. Or just, you know, get a little more exercise some other way. You’ll start to notice that your metabolism starts slowing down and that means that getting rid of that muffin top takes more time and effort than before. My advice? Embrace it and buy your jeans one size larger.

 

3. If you haven’t taken care of your skin before, you need to start doing it now. We can’t escape the fine lines and black bags underneath our eyes forever but we sure can put up a fight. Take time every morning and night to give your skin the love it needs (moisturise, moisturise, and moisturise baby) and for heaven’s sake, don’t forget to wash your makeup off before you go to bed (and if you do, wash it off as soon as you can in the morning/afternoon/whenever you wake up). Make time for a facial treatment once a week and drink plenty of water. You may still be able to make up time for years of neglect and your skin will thank you.

 

4. Shit’s gonna start costing more. Remember all those discount moisturisers you used? That £2 foundation that never failed you? Yeah, forget about all of that. Your skin will go on strike if you even think about using those. And it’s not just your skin, either. You’ll notice your hair getting a little limb unless you give it a regular trim, wash it with quality shampoos and give it a conditioning treatment at least once a fortnight. And it all adds up. Your beauty budget is going to swell like a balloon. Best thing to do when starting your search for the products that suit you, is to ask for samples and try them for free before committing. Clinique and Estée Lauder are on my list at the moment and all I had to do was rock up to the counter and ask for some samples. Rather a little cheekiness, than paying £30 for a foundation that’s going to just collect dust on the shelf.

 

5. Don’t wear makeup every day. You really don’t need to. I was in too much for a rush one morning to do my usual foundation, powder, eyeliner, mascara, blush, lips routine and you know what? No one even noticed. So fuck that. I’ll sleep 20 minutes longer in the morning and skip a full face warpaint for mundane days in the office. Especially since now I’m taking care of my skin (see point 3) so it doesn’t look like a massive disaster without medium to full coverage.

 

6. If you haven’t yet had babies, don’t let people convince you that you need to make a decision you’re uncomfortable with, with all that bullshit about “biological clocks ticking” and “not wanting to be an old mother”. Yes, now is the time to consider if you want one, but it’s not too late and you probably have about 10 years of fertility in you yet before it starts to get overcomplicated. Sure, your fertility will start to decrease now year by year but it does not mean it will be impossible for you to be a parent later, if that’s what you want. If you have a partner, discuss it. If you don’t, consider your options. But don’t let anyone tell you you’re incomplete or irrelevant if you haven’t shot a baby from your private bits. People really need to mind their own wombs and it’s absolutely fine to tell them that.

 

7. If you decide you don’t want children, that is perfectly acceptable and anyone telling you “you’ll regret it” or you’ll “change your mind yet” can go and do one. Great thing about being in your thirties is that you have enough life behind you to know what’s best for you, and enough life ahead of you to enjoy it all.

 

8. If you’re single, you’re not a spinster. You’re not left on the shelf. You’re fabulous and interesting and you’ve got a whole lifetime ahead of you to find someone to spend it with, if you so choose. Finding that someone isn’t the most important thing in the world and people making unkind or insensitive jokes about it need to be told to shut the f*ck up, preferably in a manner they will lament on for decades to come.

 

9. This is a little freaky, but you’ll start to notice some random hairs on your chin. No one else might notice them but you’ll know they’re there. Don’t freak out, though, it’s all to do with changing hormones and it’s perfectly natural. Get yourself a bloody good pair of tweezers and pluck them away without a second thought.

 

10. Sleep is super important and it’s even more important that you get plenty of it now. Get yourself some super comfy bedding and I’d suggest investing in a good mattress. Momma once said you should invest in a good pair of heels and a great mattress because you’ll end up spending the majority of your life in them, and she was right. If you have to sleep more, make sure you sleep like a boss.

 

Have I missed anything? Have you got some boss advice for ladies in their thirties? Let me know in the comments!

  • Kat

    I’ll be 30 in October! It makes me a little scared:P Thanks for sharing your advice, I’ll definitely come back to your post soon!:D

  • I’m 23 and all these applies to me!! OMG, I’m actually 30!! Hahaha…anyways these are awesome tidbits to save for when I get to that time of my life (and even now to be frank).

  • 26 and my hangovers are already painful hahah. Can’t I just be under 30 all my life? or just stay at 30 perhaps?

    http://www.AdventureFaktory.com

  • I agree with no 6 and 7! I’m Asian and from where I come from, questions about kids usually appear at the age of around 24..which one year from now for me. And I know for sure that I’m not in a rush. I don’t why people have to judge when someone doesn’t want to have kids early or don’t want them at all. Really nice post, btw!

  • My hangovers have already been getting progressively worse since I turned 21, now I’m scared of what turning 30 will be like 😀

  • Still a good nine years till i hit the thirties but these are definitely points to take on board now! Especially looking after your skin and hair as they’re going to get less forgiving over time<3

  • Water and sleep is the key! Thanks for this lovely article! xx

    • katja

      Especially sleep! I love sleeping now. Could just do it all day. 🙂 xx

  • Haha. What a fun read. I have 2 more years to hit my 30s and I am kinda worried already lol. I really don’t take care of my skin now or exercise and I really ought to do I suppose.

    • katja

      I wish I had taken care of my skin beforehand – now I’m working extra hard to turn back time 🙂 xx

  • This is such a good article, haha, it was lovely to read it. Although I´m only little bit more than halfway there, haha 🙂

    Ally,
    http://www.inspo-book.blogspot.com

    • katja

      Now you know what to expect I suppose 😀 xx

  • Well I am not thirthy but I will be in a few years. I think we should live our lives as we want no matter old we are. I can imagine myself at 50 still wearing high heals and curling my hair( I guess I am addicted to both of them). Be happy and don’t think about what others will say! Lovely post!

    • katja

      For sure! Do what makes you happy no matter what age you are! Life’s too short to not be happy ☺ xx

  • True words! Well done 🙂
    Love that comment about minding your own wombs!

    • katja

      I wish it was my comment but I read it somewhere and shamelessly stole it It’s true though ☺

  • Very good tips! I enjoyed reading your post.

    • katja

      Thank you lovely ☺

  • Since turning 31 recently I’ve noticed some of these points, plus a few extra creaks in the body, and time seems to be going faster and faster! Great post Kat 🙂

    • katja

      That’s spot on, I creak and crackle a lot more than I used to! And yeah, weeks just whisk past so quickly now. It might be because I live for the weekends though ☺ xx

  • Well, I am not in my thirties, but I think this speaks to women all ages. I am already trying to improve some of the things, except not worrying about kids yet.
    Tina von S | http://lifestylerookie.com/

    • katja

      Worrying is so counterproductive anyway. And thumbs up for self-improvement, goodness knows I need a lot of it! 🙂